Often perfectionism is a problem because it's the shortest way to burnout, depression, and strained relationships. The problem with perfectionism isn’t that it can’t help you reach important goals. It’s that even on those occasions you reach a goal, you never feel satisfied. In fact, there’s always something that needs more honing. Something waiting to be improved. As a result, on the long run perfectionism undermines your self-esteem. In addition, you often risk coming across as a perfect jerk. To your spouse, your children, and your friends — that’s to say, if you still have any. But, … [Read more...] about Why Perfectionism Is a Problem – What to Do About It
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Thoughts don’t have any weight. How could they? After all, they’re only the ineffable result of some short-lived chemical reactions within our brain. And yet it’s thanks to thoughts that what was once considered impossible is now not only possible, but even mundane. Just think of flying. Or of how easy it is to chat in real time with someone on the other side of the planet. Sure, considering that on average a human has something like 6.200 thoughts a day, they are as widespread and common as weeds, and mostly just as useless. Yet that tiny percentage of thoughts that rise above the … [Read more...] about Self-confidence – The Secret Ingredient to Write Better Stories
First off, let's make it clear: writers do not need any vacations. After all, theirs is a dream job. They get to do what they love precisely when they prefer to. And if this isn't the definition of a dream job, I don't know what else could be. Ok. Ok. I'm just kidding. In fact, a lot of writers, also the successful ones, have a day job. Because, you know, it helps pay the bills, and forces some kind of structure on their day, things like these. Secondly, writers too have families, and pretty much all the same social obligations each of us has. Yes, they learn to say "no" more … [Read more...] about Vacations for writers — why they improve your creativity
When it comes to human relationships, and the most effective ways to improve them, a large number of people resort to self-help books . It's reasonable. In fact, given the hectic times we live in, most of these people hope to find some quick and dirty tricks. Something to solve their problems with a minimal amount of time and effort on their part. Unfortunately, the truth is that such tricks rarely solve anything at all. Just think about it for a moment. Many self-help books tell us to smile and repeat over and over again the name of the people we're talking with. These books also … [Read more...] about Where do good ideas come from? Myths about creativity and the creative process
Sure, writers who don't read aren't really that common, but they're not so rare either. In any case, some time ago, I came across the “confessions” of a young writer. She said she didn't read much. Almost nothing at all. She explained that she did so not out of a sort of repulsion for books by other authors, but to keep her voice, her style, as personal as possible. In short, she didn't want to get influenced by what she read. Now, this might seem an interesting position. After all, any serious writer works hard to develop a strong personal voice. A voice able to grab the readers since the … [Read more...] about Writers who don’t read, an oxymoron?